记得那段时间，唐山大地震热映。于是约上好友，带足纸巾，打算去电影院好好大哭一场。意料中之得，整个过程我们两个就没有停止过抽泣，纸巾用了一张又一张。
整部电影看下来，除了眼泪就是感动。让我懂得了什么是爱。爱是父母为子女不求回报的付出，爱是在最危险的那一刻牺牲自己让爱人活下去的本能反应。
而影片中最触动人心的一幕，也是让我至今无法理解的是在地震的那一刻，女儿无法言语，奋力敲打着石头，期盼母亲的营救。而母亲却选择放弃她救弟弟。清醒着的她只能无声得留下眼泪。那是一种伤心欲绝的痛。那个小小的女孩儿，面对暴力，为弟弟挺身而出；面对爱吃的西红柿，虽然略有微言但仍是孔融让梨。然而在面对死亡的时刻，还是被自己最相信的母亲放弃。我想这应该比死亡更加残酷。为什么当面对这样二选一的局面，受伤的永远是女方？！从古至今，重男轻女的局面一直未曾瓦解。这是一个现实存在的社会问题，值得我们思考。庆幸的是，女孩挺过来了。那顽强的生命力真的让人佩服。很难想象，当一个女孩在被抛弃之后又死而复生。醒来看着周遭的一切，以及身边躺着的父亲心中究竟是会是怎样的感觉。她的不言不语，她的倔强坚强，让人倍加怜惜。
因为她的坚强与倔强，让她有了再一次得到幸福的机会。女孩的养父养母对她很好，把所有好的东西都给了她。特别是由陈道明饰演的养父，王德清一直对女儿悉心照料。知道了她的悲惨经历，还主动帮助她寻找家人。关心养女的幸福，可以为她脱下军服打骂那个辜负他女儿的臭小子。当女儿失踪不见，焦急万分得到处寻找。在我印象中，养父毕竟不像生父，会对自己的孩子如此细心，但影片中的王德清却诠释了一个如此伟岸而又高大无比的养父。
现在想来，影片中的女孩还是幸运的。她拥有了亲情，拥有了爱情，生活幸福美好。但所有的这一切也都是靠她自己的努力争取来的。坚强的走过灾难，走过绝望，内心变的无比强大。
当灾难来临的时候，我们也许无法躲避，但是，我们可以让自己的有限生命不留遗憾，可以在死亡面前泰然自若。那些因为动不动觉得自己悲苦想要自杀的人们，是不是应该多多珍惜一下这脆弱的生命？
英文版：
I remember that time when the Tangshan earthquake hit. So I made an appointment with my friend, took enough tissue, and planned to go to the cinema to have a good cry. As expected, the two of us didn't stop sobbing during the whole process. We used one napkin after another.
The whole movie, apart from tears, is moving. Let me know what is love. Love is the parents' unrequited effort for their children. Love is the instinctive reaction of sacrificing oneself at the most dangerous moment to let the lover live.
And the most touching scene in the film, which I still can't understand, is that at the moment of the earthquake, my daughter can't speak and beat the stone hard, looking forward to her mother's rescue. But the mother chose to give up her to save her brother. Sober she can only leave tears in silence. It was a heartbreaking pain. The little girl stood up for her brother in the face of violence; In the face of his favorite tomato, Kong Rong still let the pear, although he said a little. However, in the face of death, she was abandoned by her most trusted mother. I think it's more cruel than death. Why when faced with such a situation, the injured is always the woman?! Since ancient times, the situation of son preference has never been broken down. This is a real social problem, which is worthy of our consideration. Fortunately, the girl survived. The tenacious vitality is really admirable. It's hard to imagine a girl coming back from the dead after being abandoned. Wake up and look at everything around you, as well as the father lying in the heart of what will be like. Her speechless, her stubborn strong, people feel pity.
Because of her strong and stubborn, let her have a chance to get happiness again. The girl's foster parents were very kind to her and gave her all the good things. In particular, Wang Deqing, the adoptive father played by Chen Daoming, has been taking good care of his daughter. Knowing her tragic experience, she also took the initiative to help her find her family. If you care about the happiness of your adopted daughter, you can take off her uniform and beat and scold the smelly boy who failed his daughter. When her daughter disappeared, she was extremely anxious to find a place. In my impression, the adoptive father is not like his biological father, who is so careful to his children, but Wang Deqing in the film interprets such a great and tall adoptive father.
Now, the girl in the film is lucky. She has family affection, love and a happy life. But all of this was won by her own efforts. Strong through the disaster, through despair, the heart becomes extremely strong.
When the disaster comes, we may not be able to avoid it, but we can let our limited life leave no regrets and be calm in the face of death. Should those who feel miserable and want to commit suicide cherish their fragile lives?
